African Americans Plz Help Me...This is serious?

ok...in about 3 weeks Im getting my first perm...Im a little nervous because I wont have virgin hair anymore and I dont know how it will effect my hair...When did you get your first perm...what kind of perm was it (regular, relaxer, kiddie)...How did it effect your hair...if you got a kiddie perm was it like a regular perm or did you have to do more to keep it strait like press and things like that...Do u think it will be ok for me to a perm...If it helps you when you answer these questions Im12...Thanx in advance for all who answered!!!=]