Are you the one that family depends on?

im 29 married for 12 years have six kids. im in the military right now deployed to japan. i have a lot of stress in my life. you would think others would ease it by not involving me in their own. it seems like every time i answer my phone its something else going on back home. i almost feel like telling all of them why the hell dont you call someone else. im the youngest out of 10 and the people i should be looking up to calling for advice are calling me like i have all the answers. being that person is worst then being in the military. i mean dont get me wrong i love my family and im glad they come to me but come on now you would think they would know that life is hard right now being away from family. my wife my kids, my god daughter who is pregnant with twins. all that i have to cope with along with all the crap they drag in. am i a bad person for feeling like this. are you the dependable person in your family. or the one who calls with the problems?